WHAT IS POSSESSIVENESS ? |
Even if a man finds innumerable mountains of gold
and silver as lofty as the great Mount Kailāśa, his desire, his thirst does not meet its end. Because desires are like the sky - unlimited ......infinite. |
Life is limited, but our desires, wants and wishes are unlimited…infinite. One cannot count the waves that rise in the sea even if one attempts to. As one wave recedes, another rises. Similarly if one wants to measure the sky, it is impossible to do so, because the sky is infinite and has no boundaries. It stretches beyond this universe, beyond the reach of imagination. Likewise, one cannot reach the end of one's desires. As one desire is fulfilled, another rises and before it is satiated the next one rears its head. Lord Mahāvīra says: Even if a man finds innumerable mountains of gold and silver as lofty as the great Mount Kailāśa, his desire, his thirst does not meet its end. Because desires are like the sky - unlimited......infinite. Needs, however, are limited and therefore easier to satisfy. Man does not have to think or worry about them day and night. |
1 suvannaruppassa u pavvaya bhave, siya hu kelasasama asamkhaya narassa luddhassa na tehi kimci, iccha hu agasasama anamtiya - hyayana sutra 9.48. |
Neither does he have to plan constantly on how to collect heaps of wealth to satisfy his needs. Therefore, one who is satisfied with his basic needs remains free - far from the clutches of possessions. Such a man may have fewer luxuries but he has the wealth of peace and contentment in abundance. Śankarācārya has praised such a person by saying that he who is content at all levels is a truly wealthy man. This is because he does not burn in the fire of dissatisfaction and discontentment. His mind is not obsessed with plotting and deceiving others for the purpose of filling his own coffers. Thus he leads a life full of peace. Possessiveness is not just accumulation of unnecessary wealth and objects; it also includes the accumulation of insignificant thoughts. Gandhiji has remarked that one who crams his mind with insignificant knowledge is also possessive. Just as unnecessary objects cause clutter, so also useless and lowly thoughts clutter the mind and cause unrest. They give rise to perversions in life. Since objects of necessity and noble thoughts are the true wealth of man, an aspirant should keep his mind free of conflict and lust, and remain content in the lap of true happiness. |
Let us now examine the definition of possessiveness.
What is parigraha ? The meaning of the word 'parigraha'
is: to accumulate. From this iewpoint, not just wealth and comforts, but
other essentials of life, including our very bodies and karmas fall under
the purview of possessiveness. If to ccumulate an object is possessiveness,
a three-fold classification can be made regarding possessions: |
Now, let us examine the above classification. The body is a possession, which is acquired by the soul. There is not an instant when the soul is free of the living body. It is true that the physical body does not exist when the soul traverses from one form of existence to another, but the subtle bodies of fire and karmic particles always remain companions of the soul. |
So also, karmas are considered as possessions because they are acquired by the soul at all times, in every moment. There is never a moment in worldly life when fresh karmas are not integrated into the soul. Even in the thirteenth,2 most sublime stage of spiritual development, the soul is not truly free of karmas, because although there is complete purity of thought, karmas do arise even if just to be destroyed in the very next instant. The total absence of body and karmas happens only in the liberated condition, not in the worldly one. So, in this worldly sojourn, the soul admits the body, and also the karmas at all times. As Mahatma Gandhi has said: If you reflect on the body in the context of truth and the soul, then you will realize that it is also a possession. Apart from the body and karmas, wealth, property and other means of enjoyment including relationships are, indubitably, possessions. In such a framework, no one can be said to be free of possessions. Not even the naked monk. He also accepts his bed of wooden slab and grass, a pot for his daily routines, a peacock feather for protecting the creatures that may come in his way, texts to enhance his knowledge and of course, disciples. Hence, if acquiring of objects is defined as possessiveness, then there is no one in this world who can practice the vow of non-possessiveness. As long as one is in this world, one is hounded by necessities. A person engrossed in spiritual practices also needs to keep his body healthy and active. It is not possible for the body to exist without its necessities. Of course, most of the times, we do not discriminate or stop to think about whether a certain need is really a need or a desire.
Necessities can be fulfilled, but the fulfilment of wishes and desires is difficult. The maze of desires is so complex that before one is attended to, another springs forth. There is no end to it. As you reflect some more on the distinction between needs and desires, you will understand that all the disharmony and discord in this world can be traced to this problem of possessiveness. It is true that Jainism is idealistic and stresses
on renunciation. It inspires the aspirant to move towards liberation.
This Jaina ideal also has a consistent strand of realism running through
it. It is not merely a flight of vacant idealism. For such flight, even
at jet speed, serves no purpose. It is better to walk on solid ground,
slowly and steadily, as then, the path is at least traversed.
Thus, Jainism integrates realism into its ideal. Although it propounds denial, it accepts reality as well. It permits the aspirant to fulfi l his needs, without labeling that as possessiveness. It teaches to be free, not of necessities, but of desires. Even the ascetic who aspires to be liberated from this world cannot be free of necessities. This is why the agamas say that it is not objects, but attachment and desire for objects that lead to possessiveness.3 The Tattvartha Sutra proclaims: Attachment is possessiveness.4 When an ascetic cannot be free of his needs, how can a householder
be? He is connected with his family, society and nation. He cannot remain
aloof from these. It is his duty to perform his responsibilities and
provide for himself and his family. Therefore, though he must attend
to his needs, he must definitely learn to put a brake on desires. This
is why householders cannot adopt the vow of limiting necessities (avasyakata
parima?a), but only of limiting desires (iccha parima?a). It is thus
obvious that acquiring an object does not qualify as possessiveness.
Possessiveness does not reside in the object, but in desires, ambitions
and attachments. Therefore, desire, ambition, avarice and attachment
are considered as synonyms of possessiveness. A sage of ancient times
has aptly stated in Sanskrit literature: Those who are enslaved by their own desires are enslaved by the whole
world.5 Who has conquered the universe? He who has conquered his mind.6 Verily, he who is defeated by his mind is defeated by the world. The mind is considered the centre of resolves - the commander of the body and the senses. If the mind is restless or sorrowful, then even a healthy body loses its energy. But if the mind is charged with enthusiasm and hope, then even a lean and bony body can cross the mountainous range of life. Now the question before us - how can we prioritize our desires? Which desires are useful and which are meaningless? When we make such a classifi cation of desires, we can organize our life, bring happiness into it without allowing the burden of desires to weigh us down. So, what we need to do is to remove from the mind those desires which are useless and harmful and then prioritize the remaining desires – those that need immediate attention and those that can be attended to later. If we are hungry, food is an immediate priority, but sweets and savouries are not a must. These are simply a temptation of the mind. Therefore, even without these, one should be able to enjoy the simple food which will help in the sustenance of life. Thus, if one can prioritize wisely, then contentment and simple joys will be in abundance. This is in perfect tune with what was stated by Lord Mahāvīra that we eat to sustain our life, not live for the sake of food. The great seer has stated: 6 jitam jagat kema mano hi yena One must eat food to sustain life. 7 The problem arises when sustenance is not given as much importance as enjoyment and indulgence. Food is necessary for life, but not spices. They do not satiate hunger in any way, they only satisfy the palette. Likewise, ornamental vessels of brass, gold and silver, expensive furniture do not serve the purpose of hunger. These external decorations are only to please the ego. If we examine the things we desire, we will fi nd that very few of them are actual necessities. In fact, our needs are so minimal that fulfi lling them does not require much effort on our part. Most of the trouble we take is for exhibitionism and ego-satisfaction. I ask you - should wealth be worshipped or the individual?
Once, a well-known and wealthy person came to meet me. We
had a discussion on various issues out of which there is one I
would like to share with you. In the course of our discussion, a
question arose whether in today’s world a person is not respected
as much as his wealth is. He said, “When I was a poor ordinary
man, nobody ever greeted me nor responded to my greetings. But
today when I have wealth and extravagance, everybody greets
me. In fact, I sometimes answer by saying, “Alright, I will pass on One who has the potential to rise above this platform created by society and make a true evaluation of personal qualities is a truly humble person. His wisdom remains unaffected by his success. Let me tell you another incident. Once, a rich man and his cousin were invited for a meal to a poor man’s house. When the cousin saw the crumbling house of the host, he questioned,“What kind of a hell have we come to?” The rich man answered,“Instead of looking at the external appearance and residence of a person, try to focus on his pure emotion of hospitality. This is not an invitation by the crumbling house, rather it is a loving invitation of a simple and pure person.” 7 javanattāe bhunjijjā So, returning to my story, the poor man served some rotīs and mango pickle in an old, cracked brass plate to his guests.
He served water in the same utensil he had used for cooking his
meagre meal. The rich man enjoyed and relished his meal, but
his cousin remained perplexed by the rotīs, plate and the water
container. I put this question to you – was there any difference in
the food placed before the two guests? Not at all. Nevertheless,
one satisfi ed his hunger with joy and contentment, while the
other expressed irritation and agitation and fi nally wound up What do these two people represent? While one represents contentment and equanimity, the other represents dissatisfaction and exhibitionism. For the cousin, just the food had no attraction, it had to be presented in an ostentatious manner. But the rich man was willing to look at life with wisdom and make a distinction between needs and desires. He could control his desires by his refl ection and discrimination. Take the example of a woman who needs a saree. Instead of simply buying one, if she makes a fuss that the saree should be an expensive one, it should be made of silk with gold embroidery on it, then is this saree a necessity or a desire to satiate her ego or her whim? Once, I went to a house for receiving alms. After giving the gocharī, the man of the house requested me to see his guest room. The room was full of decorative items, so much so that there was hardly any comfortable space to walk around. So I asked him, “Seth, have you made this room for yourself or for all these artifacts? He answered, “Mahārāj, obviously for myself!” To this I replied, “Seth, this room is stuffed with so many artifacts that the entrance is cramped. Moreover, it must be quite a source of worry to you that any of these expensive articles might break or get lost! If a child accidentally drops something, I am sure he would get a thrashing. Now you decide – is this room really for you or is it only for these possessions?” The man had no answer. More often than not, people start out to build a home for
themselves, but before they realize it, they fi nd their home
cluttered with objects that their minds and egos have desired.
Soon all their energies are wasted on the upkeep of those lifeless
articles which like unwanted guests neither give joy nor have
any value in terms of utility.
A house is a necessity, but it is also essential that it is kept
clean and airy. No religion asks a householder to relinquish his
house and live on the footpath with his family. Neither does
any religion deny you the choice to work hard, earn well and
live well. It does not expect you to live off the discards of others.
This is not proper religious conduct, it is only a pretense. The
purpose of religious conduct is to make a wise discrimination
between needs and desires. Without accepting the reality of life
and its needs, no religion can be true. 8 asamvibhāgī na hu tassa mukkho – Daśvaikālika Sūtra This proves beyond doubt that possessiveness is worthless on all
counts. It brings about discord at a personal level and destroys
the peace of societies and nations. The lesser the accumulation,
the lesser are one’s worries - less coin, less care. He who has
few possessions has peace in abundance. He is the richest who
is content with the least since he has found the rare treasure of
never-ending peace. There is nothing more precious than peace
in this world. 9 mūrchā-chnna-dhiyām sarva-jagadeva parigrahah mūcrchayā rahitānām In the context of possessiveness, the venerable Mahāvīra
says of Ānanda, the householder: |